"In the end, we all just want someone who chooses us. Over everyone else, under any circumstances." -unknown
Choosing someone is not as simple as just saying that you love them, it's learning HOW to love them, it's learning how to be fluent in the language that makes them feel loved. How can we say to our partner that we choose them if we don't listen to understand them or threaten to leave when things get difficult? Are we putting our feelings aside and making them feel safe to express themselves, or are we choosing to make our feelings the priority and showing that they need to learn to speak OUR language? Are we only choosing them when they make us happy and give us what we want?
What we have to remember is that by the way we speak and act, we are either rewarding or punishing our partner for loving us, we are either choosing their love or rejecting it.
Do you know what makes your partner feel chosen, what makes them feel special, what makes them feel like the priority? Do you praise them, commend them, encourage and support them to follow their dreams, or do you try to get them to support yours? Do you focus on them and give them your undivided attention when they're talking to you or are you constantly on your phone or making something else your priority? No one wants to feel like an afterthought or a convenience, but rather, we want to feel desired, appreciated, important — we want to feel that we are a person's first choice so that we have the freedom to love them without fear. Making our partner feel chosen is one of the most beautiful gifts that we can give them. It's saying that, out of everyone, there is no one else that we want more or would rather share the very best of ourselves and our love with than THEM. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentlemanwolf - 13 hours ago