the.gentleman.wolf

Joel Clemons

Relationship, love & life coach. Writer. INFJ.
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"In the end, we all just want someone who chooses us. Over everyone else, under any circumstances." -unknown
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Choosing someone is not as simple as just saying that you love them, it's learning HOW to love them, it's learning how to be fluent in the language that makes them feel loved. How can we say to our partner that we choose them if we don't listen to understand them or threaten to leave when things get difficult? Are we putting our feelings aside and making them feel safe to express themselves, or are we choosing to make our feelings the priority and showing that they need to learn to speak OUR language? Are we only choosing them when they make us happy and give us what we want?
What we have to remember is that by the way we speak and act, we are either rewarding or punishing our partner for loving us, we are either choosing their love or rejecting it. 
Do you know what makes your partner feel chosen, what makes them feel special, what makes them feel like the priority? Do you praise them, commend them, encourage and support them to follow their dreams, or do you try to get them to support yours? Do you focus on them and give them your undivided attention when they're talking to you or are you constantly on your phone or making something else your priority? No one wants to feel like an afterthought or a convenience, but rather, we want to feel desired, appreciated, important — we want to feel that we are a person's first choice so that we have the freedom to love them without fear. Making our partner feel chosen is one of the most beautiful gifts that we can give them. It's saying that, out of everyone, there is no one else that we want more or would rather share the very best of ourselves and our love with than THEM. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentlemanwolf

"In the end, we all just want someone who chooses us. Over everyone else, under any circumstances." -unknown . . Choosing someone is not as simple as just saying that you love them, it's learning HOW to love them, it's learning how to be fluent in the language that makes them feel loved. How can we say to our partner that we choose them if we don't listen to understand them or threaten to leave when things get difficult? Are we putting our feelings aside and making them feel safe to express themselves, or are we choosing to make our feelings the priority and showing that they need to learn to speak OUR language? Are we only choosing them when they make us happy and give us what we want? What we have to remember is that by the way we speak and act, we are either rewarding or punishing our partner for loving us, we are either choosing their love or rejecting it. Do you know what makes your partner feel chosen, what makes them feel special, what makes them feel like the priority? Do you praise them, commend them, encourage and support them to follow their dreams, or do you try to get them to support yours? Do you focus on them and give them your undivided attention when they're talking to you or are you constantly on your phone or making something else your priority? No one wants to feel like an afterthought or a convenience, but rather, we want to feel desired, appreciated, important — we want to feel that we are a person's first choice so that we have the freedom to love them without fear. Making our partner feel chosen is one of the most beautiful gifts that we can give them. It's saying that, out of everyone, there is no one else that we want more or would rather share the very best of ourselves and our love with than THEM. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentlemanwolf - 13 hours ago

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"I love you and that's the beginning and end of everything." -F. Scott Fitzgerald
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To love is to be brave, it is a willingness to face what lies behind every door we encounter together, not just the ones that are easy. Being someone's "person" is not about ownership, it's about loyalty. It's knowing that no matter what happens in our life, our person is there for us and we for them. It's letting them know that every single day, we choose them and there's no one else that we would rather share our day with, share our laughter and tears with, share our love and life with. Our person is our best friend and our safest place.
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"I love you and that's the beginning and end of everything." -F. Scott Fitzgerald — To love is to be brave, it is a willingness to face what lies behind every door we encounter together, not just the ones that are easy. Being someone's "person" is not about ownership, it's about loyalty. It's knowing that no matter what happens in our life, our person is there for us and we for them. It's letting them know that every single day, we choose them and there's no one else that we would rather share our day with, share our laughter and tears with, share our love and life with. Our person is our best friend and our safest place. -Joel Clemons• Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf • Photo credit: @joseelamarre - 1 day ago

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Just as coldness is the absence of heat, loneliness is the absence of love.  We need to feel connected to our partner, to feel safe and loved and the longer that we are away from them, from the warmth of their touch, the colder and lonelier we can feel. That's why it's so important that we understand what makes our partner feel connected to us and feel loved. Do they need more affection, to hear how we feel about them, or do they need to spend more time with us in order to feel loved?  The problem is, we often do not know how to ask for what we need in the right way and our partner may have a hard time understanding our needs if their needs are different than ours. Do we say things like "you never want to spend time with me, obviously you don't care about me" or do we say "I really miss you and would love to spend more time with you?" Expecting to feel loved in a relationship while reacting with fear is like expecting to get dry while sitting in the rain. One of the worst feelings is experiencing loneliness when all we want is comfort and reassurance from the one we love. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf
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Just as coldness is the absence of heat, loneliness is the absence of love. We need to feel connected to our partner, to feel safe and loved and the longer that we are away from them, from the warmth of their touch, the colder and lonelier we can feel. That's why it's so important that we understand what makes our partner feel connected to us and feel loved. Do they need more affection, to hear how we feel about them, or do they need to spend more time with us in order to feel loved? The problem is, we often do not know how to ask for what we need in the right way and our partner may have a hard time understanding our needs if their needs are different than ours. Do we say things like "you never want to spend time with me, obviously you don't care about me" or do we say "I really miss you and would love to spend more time with you?" Expecting to feel loved in a relationship while reacting with fear is like expecting to get dry while sitting in the rain. One of the worst feelings is experiencing loneliness when all we want is comfort and reassurance from the one we love. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf • Photo credit: @elisabettamarzetti - 3 days ago

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"Love in such a way that the person you love feels free." -Thich Nhat Hanh
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In this context, you could say: love in such a way that the person you love feels free from insecurity, anxiety, worry or feelings of abandonment. Rather, help them feel free to love you and trust you. Being true to your partner means protecting their feelings and love for you by not doing anything that you know would hurt them, whether they are standing right beside you or are a thousand miles away. If you are away from your partner and are struggling with feelings of loneliness or disappointment, be careful that you are not sending the wrong signal or causing them to misinterpret what you're really feeling by pulling away emotionally or shutting them out. Maybe you don't want to seem weak or needy so you try to act like nothing is wrong, but your partner will still pick up on a change in the way you're acting and it can cause them to worry that you're feelings for them are changing. When we aren't able to express the way we feel, we will unconsciously try to make the other person feel the way we feel.
The best way to deal with this is by trying to make them feel the way that you WANT to feel; loved and cared for. Be honest and transparent with your partner, give them a chance to understand how you feel and give you the reassurance that you want, don't give them reasons to feel afraid. The more that you hold back from sharing how you really feel, the more this creates a disconnect between you and your partner and prevents emotional intimacy and trust.
A relationship will only last as long as there is real friendship, trust and mutual respect. If you want true love then you must be true to your love, it's as simple as that. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf
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"Love in such a way that the person you love feels free." -Thich Nhat Hanh . . In this context, you could say: love in such a way that the person you love feels free from insecurity, anxiety, worry or feelings of abandonment. Rather, help them feel free to love you and trust you. Being true to your partner means protecting their feelings and love for you by not doing anything that you know would hurt them, whether they are standing right beside you or are a thousand miles away. If you are away from your partner and are struggling with feelings of loneliness or disappointment, be careful that you are not sending the wrong signal or causing them to misinterpret what you're really feeling by pulling away emotionally or shutting them out. Maybe you don't want to seem weak or needy so you try to act like nothing is wrong, but your partner will still pick up on a change in the way you're acting and it can cause them to worry that you're feelings for them are changing. When we aren't able to express the way we feel, we will unconsciously try to make the other person feel the way we feel. The best way to deal with this is by trying to make them feel the way that you WANT to feel; loved and cared for. Be honest and transparent with your partner, give them a chance to understand how you feel and give you the reassurance that you want, don't give them reasons to feel afraid. The more that you hold back from sharing how you really feel, the more this creates a disconnect between you and your partner and prevents emotional intimacy and trust. A relationship will only last as long as there is real friendship, trust and mutual respect. If you want true love then you must be true to your love, it's as simple as that. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf • Photo credit: @daniloandsharon - 4 days ago

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"I want to grow with you, see how much we can thrive together. 
I want to help you fight for your dreams and see them come to life.
I want to be there for you, when it all seems like too much, I want to be the voice that reminds you of hope.
I want to make you smile and laugh, to experience joy every day.
I want to be real with you, to open myself and lay down my armor. 
I want quiet nights filled with sweet nothings.
I want days filled with you, and I want to continue seeing you, in your weakest or in your strongest, I want to be there with you." -T.B.Laberge

"I want to grow with you, see how much we can thrive together. I want to help you fight for your dreams and see them come to life. I want to be there for you, when it all seems like too much, I want to be the voice that reminds you of hope. I want to make you smile and laugh, to experience joy every day. I want to be real with you, to open myself and lay down my armor. I want quiet nights filled with sweet nothings. I want days filled with you, and I want to continue seeing you, in your weakest or in your strongest, I want to be there with you." -T.B.Laberge - 5 days ago

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"To be touched - truly touched - that's what I'm looking for. To unfold at a brush of skin like a rare flower blooming. To be surfaced at the curl of fingertips around my soul. I am so tired of shallow fun. I want my heart to shudder at a touch, to whisper "here, here, it's all yours." -Beau Taplin • The Touch @beautaplin
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"To be touched - truly touched - that's what I'm looking for. To unfold at a brush of skin like a rare flower blooming. To be surfaced at the curl of fingertips around my soul. I am so tired of shallow fun. I want my heart to shudder at a touch, to whisper "here, here, it's all yours." -Beau Taplin • The Touch @beautaplin • • Photo credit: @myrtle_and_moss_photography - 5 days ago

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"I wish I could just show you how much you mean to me. I wish I could let you look into my mind so that you would see how in love with you I am. You are my world and I will spend every day for the rest of my life proving this to you. I am wholeheartedly yours. I always will be, for you have all of my heart." -unknown
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With the way social media is, it's easy for someone to get information on you, figure out what you like and don't like and then tell you the things that they know that you want to hear. They will "love bomb" you with poetry, songs, pictures of puppies and hands in the shape of a heart, they'll talk about soulmates and twin flames and how they want a committed relationship and how no one is "real" anymore. But when you look hard enough, you find that they are saying the same things to someone else and you realize that it was just a game and you were the prize for their ego. It hurts and makes it hard to trust anyone. In contrast, a person who really loves you will show you by their commitment to you. Commitment isn't just about staying faithful, it's about staying when a situation is difficult and showing how much you care about the other person's feelings instead of abandoning them to deal with it on their own. A person who really loves you won't try to punish you when they don't get their way or make everything about them, they will lovingly and patiently put aside their feelings to make sure that you're okay and feel safe. They won't try to hide you or only talk to you when it's convenient for them, they will make you feel like their priority, they will be proud of you. Everything that they do will show that they're intention is to stay and make you feel loved. Even when they're struggling with themselves or their own life, they will show up for you to see if you need anything - because you are their heart, you are their love - and they never stop wanting to taking care of you. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf
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"I wish I could just show you how much you mean to me. I wish I could let you look into my mind so that you would see how in love with you I am. You are my world and I will spend every day for the rest of my life proving this to you. I am wholeheartedly yours. I always will be, for you have all of my heart." -unknown . . With the way social media is, it's easy for someone to get information on you, figure out what you like and don't like and then tell you the things that they know that you want to hear. They will "love bomb" you with poetry, songs, pictures of puppies and hands in the shape of a heart, they'll talk about soulmates and twin flames and how they want a committed relationship and how no one is "real" anymore. But when you look hard enough, you find that they are saying the same things to someone else and you realize that it was just a game and you were the prize for their ego. It hurts and makes it hard to trust anyone. In contrast, a person who really loves you will show you by their commitment to you. Commitment isn't just about staying faithful, it's about staying when a situation is difficult and showing how much you care about the other person's feelings instead of abandoning them to deal with it on their own. A person who really loves you won't try to punish you when they don't get their way or make everything about them, they will lovingly and patiently put aside their feelings to make sure that you're okay and feel safe. They won't try to hide you or only talk to you when it's convenient for them, they will make you feel like their priority, they will be proud of you. Everything that they do will show that they're intention is to stay and make you feel loved. Even when they're struggling with themselves or their own life, they will show up for you to see if you need anything - because you are their heart, you are their love - and they never stop wanting to taking care of you. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf • Photo credit: @elisabettamarzetti - 6 days ago

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All you really need is just one person who gets you, who understands you better than you even do yourself sometimes. Deep down, you just want that kind of connection with a person who can take one look at you and know exactly how you feel, even if it's maddening to you when you don't want them to know. You don't want to always have to explain what's going on inside your head or spell it out for someone, sometimes you just want your best friend to be able to tell you what you're really feeling. That's what best friends are for, after all, to tell you what you need to hear when you need to hear it and let you know that everything is going to be okay. They just know what makes you laugh and they know when to squeeze your hand a little tighter when something is about to make you tear up. Often the most emotional moments are shared without speaking, because you already know exactly how each other feels. That's real connection, and nothing makes you smile more than knowing that your best friend knows your heart like no one else does. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf

All you really need is just one person who gets you, who understands you better than you even do yourself sometimes. Deep down, you just want that kind of connection with a person who can take one look at you and know exactly how you feel, even if it's maddening to you when you don't want them to know. You don't want to always have to explain what's going on inside your head or spell it out for someone, sometimes you just want your best friend to be able to tell you what you're really feeling. That's what best friends are for, after all, to tell you what you need to hear when you need to hear it and let you know that everything is going to be okay. They just know what makes you laugh and they know when to squeeze your hand a little tighter when something is about to make you tear up. Often the most emotional moments are shared without speaking, because you already know exactly how each other feels. That's real connection, and nothing makes you smile more than knowing that your best friend knows your heart like no one else does. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship coach @the.gentleman.wolf - 7 days ago

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"Freedom is not about the size of your cage or power of your wings or non-attachment to a person or thing. Freedom is about being so truly, madly and deeply attached to your own soul that you can't bear - if only for a moment - a life that doesn't honor it." -Andreá Balt .
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Are you your own best friend? Do you treat yourself like it? Do you honor yourself or do you allow other people to hurt and disrespect you by making you doubt your worth or feel unlovable? Are you constantly trying to earn their love, acceptance and approval in order to feel love for yourself? If you do, then you are not free, you are living in the cage of your own thoughts and fears and you are giving people permission to starve you. As long as we believe that we need something from someone in order to like who we are, then we become a slave to both their desires and their own fears. What we have to realize is that we are not defective or deficient or inadequate, something was taken from us along the way and we are the ONLY ones that can get it back: our DIGNITY and BELIEF in ourselves. People will try to strip us of our dignity because without it, we will not feel that we are worthy of honor or respect, we will not be able to believe in ourselves or take pride in who we are. We become forced to conform to the expectations of others and seek their validation and approval, and when they withdraw their acceptance of us, it causes us to feel crushed and depressed. This changes when you decide to honor your own soul by taking back your dignity and not allowing anyone to make you feel lesser or undeserving of love. You have to decide to no longer subscribe to their fear based belief system, but instead, courageously choose to believe in yourself; you have to choose to believe that you ARE love and let go of believing that love is a currency that you have to earn. Are you really living the truth of your own heart?
The freedom to love and believe in yourself is the greatest gift that you can give to yourself, and is what gives you the freedom to love someone else in the same way. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf

"Freedom is not about the size of your cage or power of your wings or non-attachment to a person or thing. Freedom is about being so truly, madly and deeply attached to your own soul that you can't bear - if only for a moment - a life that doesn't honor it." -Andreá Balt . . Are you your own best friend? Do you treat yourself like it? Do you honor yourself or do you allow other people to hurt and disrespect you by making you doubt your worth or feel unlovable? Are you constantly trying to earn their love, acceptance and approval in order to feel love for yourself? If you do, then you are not free, you are living in the cage of your own thoughts and fears and you are giving people permission to starve you. As long as we believe that we need something from someone in order to like who we are, then we become a slave to both their desires and their own fears. What we have to realize is that we are not defective or deficient or inadequate, something was taken from us along the way and we are the ONLY ones that can get it back: our DIGNITY and BELIEF in ourselves. People will try to strip us of our dignity because without it, we will not feel that we are worthy of honor or respect, we will not be able to believe in ourselves or take pride in who we are. We become forced to conform to the expectations of others and seek their validation and approval, and when they withdraw their acceptance of us, it causes us to feel crushed and depressed. This changes when you decide to honor your own soul by taking back your dignity and not allowing anyone to make you feel lesser or undeserving of love. You have to decide to no longer subscribe to their fear based belief system, but instead, courageously choose to believe in yourself; you have to choose to believe that you ARE love and let go of believing that love is a currency that you have to earn. Are you really living the truth of your own heart? The freedom to love and believe in yourself is the greatest gift that you can give to yourself, and is what gives you the freedom to love someone else in the same way. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf - 8 days ago

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"Stop asking me to trust you while I'm still coughing up water from the last time you let me drown." -unknown
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Unconditional love does not mean unconditional forgiveness and unconditional freedom for a person to treat you however they want to. It means that you have chosen to not put conditions on your love for them, it is a gift, not an entitlement or a license for someone to take you for granted. Trust and respect have to be earned by demonstrating that they will respect your boundaries, value you as a person and your gift of love and that they are capable of handling them with care. If they can't show up and be there when you need them, then they shouldn't be allowed to just show up for when they want something either. You can't let them play with your feelings by making you feel guilty or telling you that you are being unloving, when they are the one that's untrustworthy and selfishly doesn't want to lose the benefits of your love. Don't listen when they say they love you when the evidence they've given you proves that they don't. It's not your responsibility to do the work and give them chance after chance, it's their responsibility to be accountable for their own actions and not make excuses for their neglect. Taking advantage of your love and compassion and using it against you in order to get what they want is a way of taking you emotionally hostage, it's a crime against your heart. Saying "No, No more. I deserve better" to a person likes this doesn't make you the bad guy, it means that you are removing the conditions that prevent YOU from feeling loved and safe. By having and practicing self love, self worth and self respect, then you are able to teach others how to love you the right way, the way you deserve to be. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf
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"Stop asking me to trust you while I'm still coughing up water from the last time you let me drown." -unknown . . Unconditional love does not mean unconditional forgiveness and unconditional freedom for a person to treat you however they want to. It means that you have chosen to not put conditions on your love for them, it is a gift, not an entitlement or a license for someone to take you for granted. Trust and respect have to be earned by demonstrating that they will respect your boundaries, value you as a person and your gift of love and that they are capable of handling them with care. If they can't show up and be there when you need them, then they shouldn't be allowed to just show up for when they want something either. You can't let them play with your feelings by making you feel guilty or telling you that you are being unloving, when they are the one that's untrustworthy and selfishly doesn't want to lose the benefits of your love. Don't listen when they say they love you when the evidence they've given you proves that they don't. It's not your responsibility to do the work and give them chance after chance, it's their responsibility to be accountable for their own actions and not make excuses for their neglect. Taking advantage of your love and compassion and using it against you in order to get what they want is a way of taking you emotionally hostage, it's a crime against your heart. Saying "No, No more. I deserve better" to a person likes this doesn't make you the bad guy, it means that you are removing the conditions that prevent YOU from feeling loved and safe. By having and practicing self love, self worth and self respect, then you are able to teach others how to love you the right way, the way you deserve to be. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf • Photo credit: @joancarolphotography - 9 days ago

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"Pain doesn't just show up in our lives for no reason. It's a sign that something in our lives needs to change." -unknown
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Any of us can become addicted to something that takes away our pain, or at the very least, numbs us or distracts us from it. Whether it's loss or loneliness or the bad things that have happened to us, we can only take so much before it feels like we're drowning and may never come up for air. Just being alone with nothing but our thoughts can be enough to make us want to escape from reality. No matter how much we try to push down our feelings, our unhealed wounds and false core beliefs about our self will surface in different areas of our life, especially in our relationships. Without enough healing, the love we want to share can turn into dependency. When this happens, another human being can easily become our addiction, our drug of choice. [Sadly, many people end up in unhealthy relationships this way; once the "thrill" of a relationship wears off for a person and they start struggling to cope, they often take out their pain on their partner.] Instead of being afraid of our pain, which is often worse than the pain itself, we need to pay attention to it, it's trying to tell us where we need to grow, love and care for ourselves more. Listening to what hurts can lead to just the breakthrough and healing that we've needed all along, freeing us from any unhealthy addictions and allowing us to feel in control and love ourselves the way that we've always deserved to. Instead of sharing pain, we can share our joy and love. Then, whatever we indulge in, can bring us the kind of enjoyment and satisfaction that gets us addicted to LIFE. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf

"Pain doesn't just show up in our lives for no reason. It's a sign that something in our lives needs to change." -unknown . Any of us can become addicted to something that takes away our pain, or at the very least, numbs us or distracts us from it. Whether it's loss or loneliness or the bad things that have happened to us, we can only take so much before it feels like we're drowning and may never come up for air. Just being alone with nothing but our thoughts can be enough to make us want to escape from reality. No matter how much we try to push down our feelings, our unhealed wounds and false core beliefs about our self will surface in different areas of our life, especially in our relationships. Without enough healing, the love we want to share can turn into dependency. When this happens, another human being can easily become our addiction, our drug of choice. [Sadly, many people end up in unhealthy relationships this way; once the "thrill" of a relationship wears off for a person and they start struggling to cope, they often take out their pain on their partner.] Instead of being afraid of our pain, which is often worse than the pain itself, we need to pay attention to it, it's trying to tell us where we need to grow, love and care for ourselves more. Listening to what hurts can lead to just the breakthrough and healing that we've needed all along, freeing us from any unhealthy addictions and allowing us to feel in control and love ourselves the way that we've always deserved to. Instead of sharing pain, we can share our joy and love. Then, whatever we indulge in, can bring us the kind of enjoyment and satisfaction that gets us addicted to LIFE. -Joel Clemons • Love, Life & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf - 10 days ago

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"Every child is an artist until he's told that he is not an artist." -John Lennon
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You'll never know what you can become until you stop listening to what other people tell you that you are not. When we were children, we all had dreams of what we wanted to become, we all loved something. But somewhere along the way, someone either tried to make us forget our dream or told us that it was impossible for us. Many well meaning parents might try to discourage us from following our passion by "suggesting" to us that we could never make it by doing what we love to do, they might tell us that we are not being responsible and should get a "real" job. This can be soul crushing when your own parent shows that they don't believe in you or supports you, and can be devastating to your self worth and confidence. This is when you have to remember that what they are actually doing is projecting their own belief system and feelings about THEMSELVES onto you. They gave up on who they wanted to be and they are either afraid of seeing you get disappointed or are afraid to see you succeed where they failed. We often see our parents as our safety net, yet, a safety net can actually undermine your efforts to succeed because a safety net puts doubt into your mind that you can actually do it. You have to trust in your ability to learn, grow, adapt and evolve; you have to trust that the person that you are becoming will be able to 'catch' you if you fall. Doing what you love shouldn't depend on the approval of others, it depends on your belief in yourself; remember, the only limitations you have are the ones you place on yourself. So reach for the moon and never let fear take what you love away from you, it's your life, your passion, live it. -Joel Clemons • Life, Love & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf

"Every child is an artist until he's told that he is not an artist." -John Lennon . You'll never know what you can become until you stop listening to what other people tell you that you are not. When we were children, we all had dreams of what we wanted to become, we all loved something. But somewhere along the way, someone either tried to make us forget our dream or told us that it was impossible for us. Many well meaning parents might try to discourage us from following our passion by "suggesting" to us that we could never make it by doing what we love to do, they might tell us that we are not being responsible and should get a "real" job. This can be soul crushing when your own parent shows that they don't believe in you or supports you, and can be devastating to your self worth and confidence. This is when you have to remember that what they are actually doing is projecting their own belief system and feelings about THEMSELVES onto you. They gave up on who they wanted to be and they are either afraid of seeing you get disappointed or are afraid to see you succeed where they failed. We often see our parents as our safety net, yet, a safety net can actually undermine your efforts to succeed because a safety net puts doubt into your mind that you can actually do it. You have to trust in your ability to learn, grow, adapt and evolve; you have to trust that the person that you are becoming will be able to 'catch' you if you fall. Doing what you love shouldn't depend on the approval of others, it depends on your belief in yourself; remember, the only limitations you have are the ones you place on yourself. So reach for the moon and never let fear take what you love away from you, it's your life, your passion, live it. -Joel Clemons • Life, Love & Relationship Coach @the.gentleman.wolf - 13 days ago

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