As I mentioned in yesterday’s post—just because some sick, twisted people use BDSM as an outlet for their abuse, doesn’t make BDSM as a whole sick and twisted. The same applies to the specific power exchange dynamic at the root of all BDSM play: Dominance and submission.
Some people are healthy enough to be a proper Dominant, others are not. But to say that because some narcissistic, controlling, manipulative people *coughs* #christiangrey *coughs* use their role as Dominant to violate and abuse, that ALL power exchange dynamics are abusive, is simply not true.
This is due in part to the the NECESSITY of consent through the existence of safewords! Despite the extremely poor, inaccurate, and abusive example that #fiftyshadesofgrey portrays, true consent as defined above, is the LAW of any play and power exchange dynamic. Healthy submission is rooted in a desire to serve and a will to stay; not fear, guilt, manipulation, or any other form of coercion. 🖤 XOXO, LX - 4 hours ago