Socializing While Sober
My earliest fears when considering sobriety was if I’d ever have fun again. After all, being drunk was the only reason to go out, right?
Being a fighter pilot wife, I’m going to be attending plenty of events that involve drinking. But even in early recovery, these are some of my go-to tools that might work for you as well: Have an escape plan: This one is CRUCIAL, especially if you enter a situation that may leave you highly triggered or craving. For me, it’s drinking games. Whether you drive yourself, go with a buddy that can take you somewhere else, or have a go-to excuse to leave, use it. You won’t miss out on much, and sometimes it’s better to do an Irish goodbye and protect your recovery. Trust me. BYOB - If you’re attending a party, bring your own drinks. It can be as simple as sparkling water with lime; as long as you have something in your hand to nurse, it’ll be easier to feel a part of the event and prevent people from offering you alcohol. Don’t take it too seriously: The truth is, those that matter won’t care if you’re not drinking. The people that have given me a hard time usually have insecurities that they’re trying to project, and that’s on them, not you. You will learn who genuinely enjoys your company and friendship, and your “bar friends” might fall by the wayside. It’s ok! I’ve made my most meaningful friendships in recovery because it’s based off more than a beer pong streak. You will find your way too. ️ - 3 hours ago