As we continue celebrating #pride this month, I want to discuss one of the lesser known letters of the LGBTQIA acronym. ”A” stands for asexuality, which is the absence of sexual attraction toward other people, not to be mistaken with low libido or sex drive. It’s a totally normal sexual orientation—not a disorder or dysfunction.
Just like all other sexual orientations, there are many different versions of asexuality. When it comes to things like relationships, masturbation, having sex, and romantic attraction, asexual (or ace) folks are all over the map.
Some ace folks have sex with their partners, often in order to maintain their relationships. Some never have sex.
Some aces experience romantic attraction and enjoy forming romantic relationships. Some don't have romantic feelings for anyone and are not interested in romantic relationships (ie. they're asexual AND aromantic).
Some ace people masturbate and have sexual fantasies. Some of them never do.
There isn't just one way to be ace, just like there isn't just one way to be any other sexual orientation.
Another term I’d like to address that has been popping up more frequently lately is demisexuality. A demisexual is a person who develops sexual attraction to someone only after they develop a close romantic relationship with them.
Just like asexuality, demisexuality is a normal variant on the spectrum of sexual attraction that people experience. - 1 day ago