On yesterday I realized that someone I once viewed as a very close friend, really isn't a true or good friend. That's not to say that they are not a good person or great in their other roles in others lives.
But it is to say that I have allowed this person to witness me loose so much and so many times. Yet they have failed miserably to ever once truly congratulate, show interest in or even compliment me once on my weight loss journey. It hurt at first. Not like a heartbreak or devastating blow but the kind of hurt like damn, when you thought you got an A on an exam but got the grade and it was a C-. Or an interview that went well and all signs pointed to you having the job and they hire someone else. Or that date you thought went well and they ghost you.
That kind of hurt. An unexpected ouch but it did not linger. I'm glad. It shows me my intrapersonal emotional growth, development and maturity. Some friendships or connections are as I was taught for a season, a reason but not lifetime. It seems clear to me now, this was one of those occasions.
Part of how I heal is to share in hopes that it helps someone else. Because I firmly believe that wherever you are on this planet and whatever you're going through in life, there is someone who could benefit from your sharing. So if you find people close to you, not cheering you for any reason. It may be they are so use to you loosing, that your winning makes them uncomfortable.
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