POWER IN POSTPARTUM (one day late) and thanks to @jessiemundell for writing a post yesterday that got me thinking.
It used to piss me off (still does) when people would tell me “it was worth it” or “be proud of what your body did.” I was grateful for our healthy family and kept perspective; but, was I supposed to like having a large protruding belly the rest of my life?
As I began to share and help other women, the bitterness stripped away. Then, I got strong as shit and proved a lot of people wrong about what can be done at the gym with a severe #diastasisrecti . I began to LOVE my body again for what it could do, but I still didn't LIKE the way it looked.
There is so much positive peer pressure to love your postpartum body, which is great and also very much needed! BUT this can also create guilt when we don’t like how we look. It’s a complex place to be, but we need to be honest and talk about it more.
Many women experience a hatred for their postpartum body. It isn’t easy to love it again; it took me a few years. But, once I broke through, it was amazing; I have never felt so free. I want so deeply for more women to experience this feeling.
Instead, I see so many things everyday that makes me ache deep in my gut.
Some women are so disgusted with their bodies that they rush into surgery, lacking some important information.
Some women are blaming surgery on back pain because they are embarrassed that they also want to look different (and they may not even realize they are doing this).
Some women are ashamed to show a before picture even after having the surgery. Maybe they are ashamed of how they looked before or maybe ashamed they got the surgery. All different levels of shame in all different ways.
🏻I am going to ask you to join me and share, and I know it isn’t easy to do. Share your postpartum body WITH your raw and honest feelings in all the complicated layers.
You are still strong and still powerful in your postpartum even if you don’t like the way you look, but sharing can help you learn to love your body again while helping other women do the same.🏻
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