Anchors come in all shapes and sizes, a huge one for me was my mom’s death. “The Anchor of Grief, loss and Death” can be one of the hardest anchors to shed, it’s an extremely powerful Anchor and often stops the sufferer from really living.
It’s so easy to allow the death of loved one to keep you from living, without even realizing that’s what you are doing, I know I’ve been there.
I believe the greatest gift we can give our loved ones is to live even though they aren’t alive anymore.
I lost my mom at the age of 2 years old, on April 19 and I battled the “Anchor of grief, loss and death” until I was 28 years old.
For along time, I saw my mom’s death as something that happened to me, I was closed to seeing the other side, to what it did for me.
It stopped me from really living, worried about what I was missing out on, questioning how life would be with her.
It’s interesting how we always see death as a negative, still to this day, people apologize when I tell them my mom died.
I’ve actually started saying, “please, don’t feel bad or apologize when I tell you this”, before talking about my mom’s death, because the fullness of her death and it is no longer an Anchor for me.
To release an Anchor, any Anchor, you have to see the other side of the way you currently view it, to allow yourself to reach a space of gratitude.
Yes, there is good in death, all things possess both the positive and the negative, opening your eyes to both allows you to find gratitude.
I was stuck in an internal battle for along time, feeling as though wanting to see “the good” in her death as something that negates her death.
This Anchor was one that took a long time, but once I allowed myself to see the other side of the pain, abandonment, the loss and more, I was able to reach a space of gratitude for both her life and her death.
I was able to embrace the fullness of her death, setting both her and myself free.
Releasing the “Anchor of grief, loss and death”, is one of the most freeing, allowing you to live again.
Now, before you go thinking “I’m happy my mom died”, ...cont in comments - 35 minutes ago