For the best part of my life I’ve always tried to be the perfect person and to do things perfectly (or to what I thought was perfect).
Examples... never trying to upset anyone, always doing things for others before doing for myself (even if it changed my plans), not getting into trouble (doing everything by the book) and keeping shit in a nice tidy order (like the shoes at the front door). Well I can assure you that “PERFECT” doesn’t exist and I discovered that trying to be perfect at everything is driven from a place of fear and lack of self love.
What this meant for me was, I would always back down from a disagreement because I didn’t want to upset the apple cart and wanted to be that friend that was cool, calm and easy going (fear of loosing friends if I wasn’t the perfect friend to them) and when others did things that were out of my norm or the way that I acted, I would judge them for their actions (lost love and compassion for people, which isolated me from making real connections).
I learnt that “PERFECTIONISM” doesn’t exist!
ACCEPTANCE does though.
Accepting others differences and accepting yourself.
By doing this it has given me a more peaceful mind, less anxiety, less worrying about what others think, more self confidence and allowed me to form amazing connections with other humans.
“Why would you do that”!
This use to be the words that would come out of mouth more often than not when I saw somebody doing something different to me. Now when I see something different to how I’d do it, I try and learn why they did it that way or I just accept that they are different to me and my life goes on.
If you let people be who they wanna be and act how they wanna act (as long as they are not hurting anyone) then you don’t have those negative judgments and thoughts, which leads to a more peaceful mind for you.
P.S this is not the perfect pic of me and that’s why I used it (the puppy is perfect though). Also I don’t have the most perfect grammar, but that isn’t going to stop me from sharing my truth! ️ - 19 minutes ago