ARE YOU MORE INTO LOOKS OR BRAINS?
I’ve gone through some seriously worrisome phases regarding the type of people I’ve kept in my company, especially as boyfriends(sorry mom and dad!😬🤷🏽♀️), and although I’m sure I’ll continue to evolve those whom I collect along my route, I’m confident that I’m headed in a better direction in building my tribe, than in the past... That said, my answer to the question above is: I’d say that I’m attracted to brains over looks now-a-days, however, I think it important to mention that visual first-impressions still play a valuable role in who I gravitate to. With the direction my interests are going these days, I’m making a real attempt to see all people I come across as “god in drag”, but in all honesty, even when I’m feeling fairly conscious in this area, an extremely grouchy face, closed body language, or a disheveled and/or inebriated person can still be off-putting. So, it turns out, “looks” do play a role in who I’m willing to engage with. ...And if I’m really REALLY being honest with you, I do find myself ogling men with particularly masculine features(defined jawlines, strong bodies, confident smiles, etc.) around my ovulation each month, which is a fantastic sign that my sex hormones are healthy and surging. 🧐🤪🏽♀️There’s no shame in my game. ...Of course, as I’m sure many of you know, even if there isn’t an initial spark of visual attraction to somebody you meet, the way you “see” them can often change as you get to know their personality. The people in my life now, whom I’d consider the sexiest or most attractive, are those who’ve made me feel seen and heard, and who’ve opened themselves up to me and allowed me to see them clearly as well. This way of being vulnerable with others doesn’t come easily, and perhaps that’s why that type of bravery is what I’m most excited by in others! 🥰👁
So what’s your answer?
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