Is there an ugly part of you that has come out in your mum anger that has even scared you? Have you felt like a monster? The shame and guilt that comes with mum anger is expounding and really difficult to work through. I never even knew I could get so angry UNTIL I became a Mum. It was something I was unprepared for entering into Motherhood and have felt very isolated as I’ve tried hard to work through my mum anger: the roots of my anger, my emotional response to my kids, and managing and coping in those moments of anger. •
As Mothers, many of us feel yelling at our kids doesn’t usually help an already overwhelming situation, nor does it make you less angry. Yet, many of us find ourselves there because of tantrums, sibling rivalry, poor listening, bad behavior, etc. I have found myself there more times than I would like to admit. I have felt like a monster. In many cases, I have lacked empathy and understanding for my children. It sounds ridiculous really, but sometimes it is hard to let our children feel and express because sometimes it is so irrational. However, in there little minds it is devastating to not be able to sleep at grandma’s house, to have to leave the park when they don’t want to, use a blue spoon instead of a red one, or even eat this instead of that 😳. We need to let our kids feel and learn how to let them feel without having an emotional response that can negatively impact them. •
I think one of the biggest struggles about mum anger is how intensely isolating it is. No one talks about it, which only makes you feel like you are the only one really struggling with your emotional response to your kids. It feels like there is a stigma on mum anger because admitting that we struggle in how we respond to our kids and the anger that comes out of us can often be really shameful. This conversation is important that we have as Mothers. •
If there is an ugly coming out of you, remember that we are human and molding as well on this journey of Motherhood. I am not a monster. You are not a monster. Instead of allowing shame and guilt to carry you, forgive yourself, LEARN how to respond and cope, and do better!
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