** POSITIVITY often perpetuates our POWERLESSNESS ** ... I know this is going to be an unpopular opinion, but hear me out. I’m all for us owning what’s in our control, and cultivating a supportive perception. But when positivity in the name of a ‘high vibration’ results in turning a blind eye to what’s really going on, I’m no longer willing to buy it. Especially when it comes to women's empowerment.
You see, I’ve been riding this self-help train for over 5 years, and I’ve gone deep with the best of the best. And I’d be lying if I didn’t say I think it’s screwed me over to a certain extent. There’s a separateness to it that has stripped me of so much power these last few years. The power that lies in my compassion, the power in my grief. You see, when we’re no longer willing to tolerate our own limitations and excuses, we become hard towards the limitations and excuses of others. The expectations we project look a little different, but are no less present. Our social circle becomes narrower, our ‘fucks’ get more and more privileged. We see the potential of people before the person themselves, and immediately we’re disconnected.
I know we all want to ‘do' better, but wanting to do better has turned into wanting to ‘be' better. Better than this, better than we are. Anything other than what we are, or they are. An addiction to limitlessness, enlightenment and a scripted freedom that escapes our deepest forms of resistance. The same resistance that funnily enough holds the power. Oh how this has brutally torn me away from my human experience, time and time again.
We think our positivity will support us in finding our passion, despite passion so often coming from deeply knowing our pain. We think no limitations will support our creativity, despite nothing ever having been born from a problem-less place. We aim for being everything we will ever need, then grossly mis-underestimating the support we need at life’s critical moments. And at the end of it all we wonder why all our self-control and focus has left us feeling such despair, only to realise that when it comes to power, we can’t think our way there. **Continues in comments... - 51 minutes ago