You've heard this all before. Most of us got a download from our parents, Disney, or a drunk relative at a family gathering. Maybe you built up a fantasy in your head from a rom com where everything works out and once you've conquered a battle or two, everyone lives happily ever after.
Then you get into relationship here in the real world. It starts off great during the infatuation phase. You enter a state of temporary psychosis where we become sometimes obsessed, paint red flags green, ignore all of the stuff our partner does that normally drives us crazy, and things just seem easy.
Eventually the love drugs wear off and you wake up to one hell of a hangover. Suddenly, you are triggered by the things your partner does that you normally love about them, you can't let it go when the toothpaste isn't rolled up from the end of the tube, and you end up fighting by the hot bar at Whole Foods. You might even be fighting nearly every single day. Yikes!
Truth is that relationships can be equally challenging and rewarding. And like most rewards that are worth having, you have to work for it. Sometimes you even need to fight for it. Successful relationships are no different. (I know, I know, what a bummer!) When I think back to some of the greatest feelings I have ever had, like coming home from a year in Iraq, the reward was only so sweet because I had busted my ass to get there. When you start applying yourself to your relationship like that, you start to find that it is more rewarding.
What are you doing to work hard on your relationship? Even edgier here: Are you working hard on your relationship?
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