I am often asked:
Why is it so difficult to find LOVE?
My very short answer:
Because we have an expectation of how we will feel when we find “The One”.
All the fairy tales, Hollywood, Bollywood, Lollywood, our cultural blueprint tell us that when we find our Soulmate, they will take us to our happy place...our happily ever after.
This expectation when not met leads to resentment and disillusion.
We all come with our relational experiences, around respect, around trust, around attachment, around gender roles, around marriage, around commitment, around love. .
We have either experienced too much attention or too little attention. .
With this relationship history in tow we have an expectation that with our partner we are not going to feel like that, not anymore. We are going to be loved as we are without worry of being rejected or suffocated.
This is what makes LOVE difficult to find.
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