So I’m ’stuck’ in Singapore for the day, and where else to go to get some deep work done than the local library.
In the breaks I’ve been taking, I’ve been - as ever - people watching…but also mind watching at the same time.
Question: Have you ever sat and watched your own judgments?
There are probably more fun things to do with your free time, I grant you.
But wait, I’ve found a way to make it interesting.
Next time you’re in a public space, take a moment.
Put your digital distraction down, and just watch. Take your time and just watch your own mind from a distance.
Observe as it registers different faces, different bodies, different lives come and go. See its natural tendency to label what it likes, doesn’t like, or feels indifferent about.
What is it saying in these moments?
Notice how quickly the mind creates separation from people based on their shapes and clothes if it doesn’t like them, or creates connection, positive stories and interest based on exactly the same things if it does.
Nothing revolutionary so far.
But now try two things.
1) Ask yourself…who is making these distinctions? Or rather, what part of yourself has just judged the f*$k out of someone without having exchanged a word? Do you have a clue what is going on in their life? Although you now feel safer, what have you potentially just lost?
2) Now try looking at this person as if they were six years old. It’s easier to do when you look into their eyes. Look for the innocence in their actions, how they are in some way just trying to meet some unmet need or desire, just like we are.
Then see what happens to those judgments.
Just a thought…they’re all just a thought.
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