I’d like to touch upon a topic that makes me feel uncomfortable as it shows how vulnerable I actually am. It shows my insecurities and pain, something we often don’t project to our external world.
What I mean is rejection. It hurts like hell, makes us feel angry, sad and a lot of other emotions and is something we don’t like to talk about. I mean, it’s a natural thing. All of us go through it in our lives. It can come up when we don’t get the job we wanted, or even in the smallest things in our daily life when for example someone makes a snarky comment on your outfit or haircut. But mostly we know it romantically, when someone doesn’t like us back. The feeling of rejection is something known to every human being. It makes us feel isolated, as if something is wrong with us. As if someone saw my true self and rejected me for it. It makes us feel helpless, hopeless and can even give us anxiety. Because, what if it happens again? What if they’re right?
But, I recognize that it’s important to think that rejection happens to everyone. It is part of the journey. Ironically, it is something that connects us to every human being as everyone can relate – in a job, relationship, and everyday rejections. It is a universal feeling that makes connections valuable, not vulnerable anymore as we all know how it feels.
I realized that after I got rejected, I felt anger. But this is a secondary emotion. It’s mainly because it easier to be angry than sad. Feeling the energy that’s in anger is preferable than feeling the hurt that’s actually behind it. If we distract ourselves by feeling angry, we never get to the emotion behind it, which is actually the pain. Then I tried to listen to it, allowed myself to touch that pain and be mindful about it. When I got in touch with it, I realized it faded away so much faster. #failingandlearning #rejection #writer #writerscommunity #positivemindset #gratitude #thismoment #powerofnow #selfdevelopment #personaldevelopment #selfgrowth #inspiration #positivethoughts #determination #livebetter #mindful #instadaily #igdaily #healing #iamtb #girlslovetravel #gltlove #dametraveler #iamtb #travellingthroughtheworld #placestogo #travel - 14 hours ago