Patterns. Ahh this is what it’s all about!
That’s what I’m looking for when I work with couples. I’m looking for your patterns. How do each of your personalities show up in how you interact with each other? •
That means that I never see things as someone being at “fault” in the traditional sense. The thing about relationships is that we are intertwined. What you do elicits a response in your partner, and their behavior in turn elicits a response from you. It’s magical, actually. •
So, what I do is observe the patterns between you. I want to help you function better. I’ll call out what I see, then help you look at ways to change what isn’t working. Sometimes it feels good, and sometimes it’s painful. It’s not always easy to look at your part in the problem.
It’s super easy to blame our partners for everything going wrong, though
@thebohohouse - 7 minutes ago