self love is way more than saying "I love myself", is way more than giving ourselves a massage or a day off in nature. Yes it is that too but I goes way deeper, sometimes it might be confusing because we didn’t learn to hear our hearts and follow our feelings, we were trained, programmed and reprogramed to repress, ignore our feelings and listen to our racional mind and unfortunately our racional mind is a reflection of everything else that’s outside of us, all the opinions and wishes from others, friends, teachers, parents, advertising, movies etc etc etc, we create an idea of how things “should” be and we get attached to that, we follow it so strongly to the point when we can feel our soul and heart breaking but we keep going anyway, just because is what we “have” to do.
No, we don’t.
Life and love are simpler than we imagine when we just stop to listen to our powerful inner compass: our feelings. If something feels good and makes us feel happy is where we should be; if something feels painful, heavy and untrue, if it hurts, is not our path. Simple like that.
Sometimes is almost impossible to feel tho, because we are way more connected to the outside and to our minds than to our feelings and heart; we create so many stories, expectations and ideas of what we “should be/do” than when our body says “no”, we don’t listen, our mind jumps and justifies with many other stories and things we “have to do”... sounds madness, well, it is.
After 31 years knocking my head on the wall, pretending I was fine when I wasn’t and putting myself in situations where I would end up hurt I finally realized that self love is honoring my own feelings, no matter how crazy and unfit they might seem, we can’t tell ourselves that we should be like someone else, we can’t follow others advices and wishes, we can’t accept stuff that’s not good for us, that we don’t want! We can’t tell ourselves that is okey when is not, that we are being too sensitive or too whatever else, too this, too that, fuck it! We are not too anything, we are what we are. Self love is listening, listening to our bodies, to our hearts and to our soul, accepting our feelings and taking the decisions that (...) - 51 minutes ago