This #takeaway from @gretchenrubin ’s @onmogul interview is smart advice for any area of life! In this case, it applies to living with someone who has a different tolerance for clutter. "Understand the root of why someone feels the way that they do. People are different in what challenges they face and what kind of environment they want to end up in.
There are abundance lovers and simplicity lovers. Some people are counter clearers and some are counter fillers (here is the bagel cutter, paper towel holder, and spoon rest, and I like seeing all of these items on my counter.) Those are preferences. If we are using the items, it’s not clutter. If we never use an item, then no one benefits.
Some people are truly clutter blind. That person doesn’t want to annoy you, they just don’t register it. Sometimes you need to say - this is the person that I’m with. If you have the money to pay for cleaning, perhaps you can outsource it. The question is always: is this cheaper than marriage counseling?
You might say - I am picking up a pair of dirty socks every day. The question is: do you care and is it really what you want to pick a fight over?
You can always choose to do something out of love. Even if you don’t feel that you have to or should you can choose to, for example, load the dishwasher in a particular way, because you know that it’s important to the person with whom you live. You can choose to do it their way out of love." - Gretchen Rubin #author #book #outerorderinnercalm Link in Bio. - 58 minutes ago