I’m not sad.
I’m not sad that you are wired differently.
I am not sad that you have a “condition”
I am not sad that you made my childhood and teenage years a real challenge for me.
I am not sad you sent me out of the classroom.
I am not sad that you couldn’t reach the end of a book.
I am not sad you can’t remember names or faces.
I am not sad about your hypersensitivity.
What I am sad about, is that children and adults just like me are not understood.
I am sad that there are children going to school everyday, struggling.
I am sad that there are adults going to work everyday, struggling. Struggling to fit the mould, fit in the box and live up to expectations that their brains have to work extra hard for. I’m sad that some people think they are failing, when their brain is actually their superpower and their type of thinking is incredible in a school or workplace.
Around 1 in 20 New Zealanders have ADHD. It frequently remains undiagnosed because the awareness and information about the condition is hard to find. People with ADHD are usually energetic, enthusiastic, creative, intuitive, sensitive and highly intelligent. The great and interesting parts of ADHD can shine so brightly that when someone with undiagnosed ADHD says “I think I have ADHD” the most common response is “Na this is just the way you are! It’s just your personality!” (Like it would be a total insult if instead they responded with “yeah I think you do”) But really underneath that person is seriously struggling with focus, impulse control, a poor working memory, rejection sensitivity disorder and sometimes believe that they are just stupid, dumb or hard to like.
I’m not sad to be neurodiverse, i’m sad that silence and shame has created a stigma around the disorder.
So far, 16 people have messaged me and said that after watching my stories, they have been assessed and diagnosed with ADHD and it has literally changed their life...and I am certainly not sad about that.
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