“I belonged to a small town in Punjab. Both my parents, especially my father wanted his daughters to become independent women, and I always wanted to find my path & go to a big city.
Just then, I saw an ad calling out to applicants to join the Military nursing service in Calcutta. So I jumped at the opportunity & at 17 I gave the exam. I passed & became a trainee nurse in the army.
After being posted in Calcutta, I was once on the train back from visiting my parents. Just then this man walked up to me, pointed at the empty seat opposite me & asked, ‘May I use this seat?’ Soon I realised he was a fauji too! We spoke for hours & hours. We decided to meet again & started seeing each other often–it was so simple with him–it was love & we both just knew.
But soon he had to go back to work, Calcutta was his home but he was posted all over the country. While we were together, I got along so well with his family that when he was away, I’d spend time with them.
After a couple of years, his sister was getting married & he was coming home. But just 3 days before the wedding, he called saying, ‘Operation Blue Star has launched & we’re going to war.’ So without thinking I said, ‘If there’s going to be a war, we should get married now.’ So as soon as he could come back for a day from Amritsar, in a simple ceremony, we got married.
Immediately after that he was posted in Ladakh. I was working so most of my time would be spent at the hospital. Soon after we gave birth to two beautiful kids.
We spent so much time apart but amidst all the distance–we wrote letters to each other almost everyday. For 20 years there would be days where he wouldn’t respond, days where I’d think that something’s wrong. But then his letters would arrive & I’d know my husband’s alive.
My husband’s priority has always been the nation. He’d taken an oath that the country would always come first & his welfare would come last & I always knew that with his welfare, mine would come last too. It was tough but I’ve been proud of being an army wife–the wife of someone who’s keeping his country safe. A wife of someone who was out there, battling every single day so that we could all sleep comfortably at night." - 8 hours ago