I no longer identify as my mother’s daughter.
Her favorite “justification” (it wasn’t one) for abusing me was “I am your mother”, so when I stopped communicating with her I thought about how I could take my power back.
Initially I said she’s no longer my mother - but she can still twist those words. Her reply could still be “but I am your mother!” So I decided that I’d stop being her daughter. She can say “I am your mother” all she wants - my response will be “okay; but I’m not your daughter”. I am not her daughter. I never was. I was her toy. Her target. Her entertainment. But her daughter? No.
To be honest, I don’t believe she deserves the title of “mother”. No mother does what she did, and each time I talk to another mother about what she’s done to me, they react in sadness and horror. But she’s claimed that word, and I can’t (and won’t) take it away. Instead I’ve removed myself from her reign - as I am not her daughter. - 2 hours ago