Saw this on Facebook. (Sorry about the grammar.) There is a point in a relationship; a tipping point if you like (Love is a choice) ...just before you fall in love.
If you ignore all the warning signs with thought slogans like (girls know these), 'I can change him.' Or 'I can overlook this one thing.' 'He/ she is just misunderstood.' Etcetera. Trust me, you will regret it. Dating a victim will be exhausting. They have a problem for every solution.
I like this because I am a healer. I like to nurture and take people under my wing. This does not help me in my own ptivate life. In the past, I have chosen 'projects' instead of 'stable' types. However, selecting a mate with major issues is just masochism. They have to sort themselves out before they get into another relationship, otherwise you are dating their ex-partners, mothers and fathers too. And if they don't love themselves, they sure won't have the capacity to love you.
Look carefully at prospective partners. What does a partnership mean to you? Is it just company for loneliness or can you commit? Consider that you attract a mate based on your own frequency. Yup, they can be a mirror for the unhealed parts of you. Insecurely attached people attract anxious ambivalent people like magnets. Toxic relationships are common.
Advice: If you seek company or entertainment, then that is all you will get. If you can enjoy your own company most of the time, you will attract same - and then you will attract someone ready for a committed relationship, instead of boredom, ego boosting or sex.
The best investment you can make is to get 'relationship ready.' Work on yourself. Learn to love yourself - faults and all. Work on your shadow side. Have a spiritual de-clutter Do some counselling or personal growth workshops.
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