We love to hear stories about people who overcame adversity & achieved greatness. How they rose up from being told they wouldn’t amount to anything, or how they persevered through being physically & mentally abused.
My story isn’t like that. I was always loved & encouraged by the adults in my life. I dont have a tragic story of how I came from nothing & through it all survived & came out on top.
Funny story: In high school my brother told my mom he wished we were poor cuz those are the types of people who make it. People who come from good homes don’t get talked about & dont get success. When we hear inspirational stories there’s always a tragedy. And while the stories are inspiring, they’re not relatable to a lot of regular people.
I didn’t have to get a job when I was in high school to help out financially, I got a job in high school because it was fun. After it stopped being fun I quit. I did athletics because I was good at it. But once it started to get really hard I stopped. And the adults in my life allowed this behavior. They love me so much they stripped me of the necessity of discipline. I remember the feeling of good enough being a theme in my life. I don’t know if that was ever actually said to me but that is how I interpreted my life. “You are good enough. You don’t need to strive for anything more than you have/are.” It sounds really beautiful. But when you think about it it’s quite sad. I’m not blaming the adults in my life, I know that they were doing the best they could with what they had & knew. And now it is my responsibility to decide what direction I want my life to go.
I have this theory that some people suffer outwardly through their circumstances, while others suffer inward through their mindset. I’ve had a beautiful life clouded by a toxic fixed mindset, that I have had to claw my way out of, calling out my BS, teaching myself a different way, struggling to decipher which voice to listen to. That has been my adversity. It’s not story worthy, but it’s more common than we let ourselves believe. Your problems don’t have to be grand for them to be worthy of fixing. You deserve to live your best life even if you have a decent life already. - 1 hour ago