Fear. There are so many who are afraid of going into the beach because of unknowns, like seaweed & sharks! Even though shark attacks are super rare, the fear of them hinders hundreds of thousands of individuals from enjoying the mysterious beauty of the ocean.
Fear is a bastard (please excuse my language if you're British). Fear among the top ten things that hinders us from being fully alive, and making the difference on earth we were born to make.
So how do we overcome it?
The first step is recognizing it. Recently I started playing a "worst case, best case scenario" game with @meg.carswell (and not like how I do with my kids, but rather, getting to the root fears and dreams.) This week I was really struggling and she started asking leading questions to help me get to my "worst case." It didn't take long for me to find myself weeping on her shoulder from grief. Through the exercise I realized I was afraid of loneliness. You see, my community has been shifting a lot this year & it will shift even more. I don't feel equipped to handle it.
But it was more than that. I'm afraid that everyone I mentor and invest in will leave me (because they will, it is the nature of discipleship, mentoring, parenting--leading to let go). And I am afraid that everytime I build something, a non-profit, a ministry, a world-changing something--I will be left to keep building alone. It's happened before. It will happen again.
I need community like oxygen. I felt suffocated by the losses that have come and will come. The sacrifice of leadership isn't fun.
But then dreaming. What is the best case scenario? People's lives will change. They will be equipped to make a difference in the world, and to do it well, helping more than hurting, with intentionallity & healthy boundaries.
Dream more: exploitation will be reduced. People will love their neighbors and those of other cultures, refugees & immigrants. Social good businesses will start. Those in extreme poverty will find ways out. Racism won't destroy. Compassion will grow.
Good is still worth sacrifice.
Fear is a bastard, but it doesn't have to be a shark keeping us from building beauty in the unknown. #nofear - 6 minutes ago