It’s so important for you to trust your own perceptions and feelings. Change begins with you. Some specific things you can do include: • Identify painful or difficult experiences that happened during your childhood.
• Make a list of your behaviors, beliefs, etc. that you would like to change.
• Next to each item on the list, write down the behavior, belief, etc. that you would like to do/have instead.
• Pick one item on your list and begin practicing the alternate behavior or belief. Choose the easiest item first.
• Once you are able to do the alternate behavior more often than the original, pick another item on the list and practice changing it, too.
In addition to working on your own, you might find it helpful to work with a group of people with similar experiences and/or with a professional counselor. Special Considerations
As you make changes, keep in mind the following:
• Stop trying to be perfect. In addition, don’t try to make others perfect.
• Realize that you are not in control of other people’s lives. You do not have the power to make others change.
• Don’t try to win the old struggles – you can’t win.
• Set clear limits and boundaries with others. Final Note
Don’t become discouraged if you find yourself slipping back into old patterns of behavior. Changes may be slow and gradual; however, as you continue to practice new and healthier behaviors, they will begin to become part of your day to day living. *not my own words, unable to find source/author — pic found by @spiritualgoddessmagic - 3 hours ago